How to Know If You Need a Coach

How you might recognize if you are off your path:

Physical

• Weariness. Restless sleep. Procrastination.
• “Gotta do it” shows up in financial constraints and difficulties right away.
• My gut tells me I'm off, when I'm not having enough fun.
• I feel a tightness in my solar plexus.
• My energy feels blocked; my meridians feel closed.
• I hunch my shoulders way up.
• I feel tired—exhausted.
• I feel drained, lethargic, and sometimes even sick to my stomach.
• My hair looks dull! (Yes! It really does!)
• My fingernail cuticles become ragged, and I start to bite them, rather than clip them.
• I feel scattered physically.
• I feel lazy. I feel physically tired.
• I do things just for the money.
• I’m not finding time to work in my garden.
• I’m spending too much time cleaning house.

Emotional

• Pressure. Depression.
• I feel unhappy and sad. Often I cry.
• A gnawing feeling lingers.
• I try very hard. My expectations make my misses painful.
• I feel frustrated and short tempered.
• I have a feeling of constriction.
• I am anxious, tired, short tempered, angry, unsettled, and frantic.
• I feel tired and depressed.
• I am easily frustrated with situations and people.
• I have trouble staying focused, being energetically down.
• I feel bad or have negative emotions.
• My heart isn’t open.
• I don’t like me.
• I’m not listening empathically.
• I’m bored and preoccupied with the non-essential. Scattered physically.
• I don’t feel challenged.
• I feel bummed out—depressed.
• Feel driven, working for another's agenda.
• I feel just blah, blah, blah.
• I have a sense of anxiousness and a low level of unhappiness.
• Little time—I forget to enjoy.
• I become overwhelmed with day-to-day stuff and spin my wheels.
• Too busy doing little things.
• I make too many plans with friends.
• My energy drops away and I find I reach for a lot of external things to help.
• I eat a lot more.
• I get anxious—a non-specific feeling of discomfort.
• My clients aren’t feeling inspired as a result of our meeting.

Mental

• I'm easily distracted. Unfocused.
• Inner dialogue recycles the same question with no action taken should language.
• I carry on an inner dialogue to go over and over the reasons I did something.
• I am in the archetype of the warrior versus archetype of spirit.
• The background noises one of shoulds and musts with a driven quality. I also start to go into the old refrains of limitation.
• Thinking is not usually insightful.
• Justifying position, where I am seemingly explaining myself to others.
• I become judgmental of others.
• My thinking becomes scattered and disjointed.
• I don’t feel challenged.
• My thinking becomes scattered and disjointed.
• I’m critical of myself and judgmental of others.
• I'm “in my head” rather than in my body.
• I'm noticing time much more; there’s a lack of flow.
• I lack creativity.
• I spend too much time trying to “figure things out.”
• Kick myself— “should” language
• Feeling hooked, not enough time.
• My self-talk becomes very negative.

Spiritual

• Meaninglessness. Wandering.
• Distance between my being and the source.
• I’m struggling to be present, in the now, with myself and with others.
• I’m connecting with a “different” spirit from when I’m on my path.
• I’m efforting to be “spiritual.”
• I see the “humanness” rather than the “divine” in others.
• I see circumstances happening “to” me rather than “for” me.
• Lack of peace. No flow.
• Drifting and wandering.
• Spark is missing—I function without that special zest.
• Lost, purposeless, defeated.
• I lose some of myself and feel lost.
• I feel disconnected from others and feel as if where I am. Is not where I belong.
• Life isn't easy.
• I’m out of sorts, which leads to noticing that I'm having a negative impact with a slight edge to me that I observe in others’ reactions.